How to find out what to do with your life

So what to do? What do you actually want to do with your life?

“If you’re unsure about what you’re going to do with your life, try to remember some of the most interesting people didn’t know what they were going to do at age twenty-two or even at forty. And nearly all of them are unemployed drug addicts forced to live on cat food. ” — John Safran, Not the sunscreen song

Sorry, I wanted to inject something funny (yet dire) to get you thinking.

How do you work out what to do with your life? What a huge question! And so many answers. How can you even possibly begin to pin down an answer? My theory is that you don’t. Well, don’t try to choose just one thing. It’s too hard. Narrow it down to a small handful and then follow the path that looks best from there. Or if you do choose one path don’t forget that you can back out and choose another one if it doesn’t work out. I think that’s the problem with decisions. People think that once they’re made you have to live with them forever. I mean, sure, give it a go. A real go. Put some effort into making it work for you. But if it doesn’t work then choose something else!

“Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand” — Thomas Carlyle

And what exactly are we talking about here? What to do with your life. That’s pretty broad. By this, most people mean career paths. Some will mean getting married and having kids. Others will mean charity work or religious calling or whatnot. Or they might mean moving overseas or to the country. It might be as simple as choosing to slow down or stay working hard. Lots to decide on. But let’s think about career type only. Most people (unless they’re very lucky) have to find a way to earn a crust somehow. So, since you’re probably destined to have to earn money in some way you need to work out what the best way for you is. I know, I know. That’s your problem. We’ll try to fix that.

Well, let’s start with a question some will find easy. This is like a shortcut to finding out. Picture a situation where you have enough money to live off and never needed to get a job. What would you do with your time? Would you go sailing? Would you go hiking? Would you volunteer at a charity or a library? Would you travel? Would you babysit? Would you go into local council or politics? Would you tinker with computers? Really think. Hard.

Okay, so now you’ve got an idea of how to spend huge amounts of leisure time. How can you work that back into your career? For some this will be SO obvious. For others you may still have too many things to choose from. It should still help you to draw a picture. If you like babysitting in your spare time then get yourself working in childcare right now! Get paid to do what you would do with your time anyway. That’s the plan! If you like to travel then maybe becoming a travel agent is on the cards. Or if you are currently an accountant then you might consider staying an accountant and shifting your place of work to a travel agent.

Now, I’d like you to think about your dream life. Visualise it. When you wake up what do you see? Who do you live with? What do you do that day? Try to incorporate as many of the little things into your life as soon as possible. They’ll make you happier. Now, the reason I mentioned this is to remind yourself about potential contradictions. If you love hiking, but want to wake up every day in a city apartment then you might not really want to work as a tour guide in the sticks. Whereas if you love hiking and you visualised a place with a good view of nature out your bedroom window then a tour guide just might be the trick. Your call. You need to think things through to make it work. As I implied with the example of the accountant, you may find your ideal field this way but not your ideal job role. Or you may find your ideal job role and not the field. Depends how your imagination works, really. So, we need to help you find a job role that fits. Chosing your favourite skills can be tricky. There are lots of tests out there that help you to narrow down your favourite skills sets. Doing these may help you or it may not. It’s up to you how you decide. Suit yourself. But you need to know what your favourite skills are. You don’t want to end up a construction worker when you prefer to help people. Make sure you know.

Do lots more investigation into yourself before deciding. A great resource is the book “What colour is my Parachute” and the related website, The Job Hunter’s Bible, written by the author, Dick Bolles. Here is a very easy way of working yourself out. Divide a page into three columns. Write down all your favourite interests (including your dream pastime) on the left. Write down all your favourite skills in the middle. Make up a list of jobs on the right that mix your favourite interests and skills. Write down any weird and wonderful combination you can think of. Even if it’s silly. It might lead you to think of something more realistic when you look at it later. There’s also plenty of career planning tools online.

Right. Now you have some brilliant career paths opening up. How to narrow them down? Well, you have to research them a bit. Once you come up with a great idea you have to investigate it. Get career planning advice if you can. Spend as much time as you can working out how to earn money in one of these dream jobs. You might surprise yourself. Don’t just presume everyone in the world is killing themselves to get that job. Find out. No slacking off here, alright? Remember, most of the best jobs (in fact, most jobs) are not advertised. Work out how to make that dream job yours. But that’s another story…